The path to amazing opportunity goes through many people on its long winding road. These denizens have the influence and knowledge that will enable you to reach amazing heights, but they receive payment in your charisma. In other words, if you’re not a likable person, influential people won’t gravitate towards you.
Or, anyone else, for that matter. Life improves drastically when people can relax around you, be themselves, and relate to you in conversation. It’s not only about talking either; everything from your personality to how you carry yourself are important parts of your charisma. Your hygiene, your way of talking, your surroundings, things that you may find miniscule can be the difference between corporate opportunity and minimum-wage.
“It’s not about what you know, it’s about who you know,” says the age-old mantra about making connections. How do you think that those “who-to-knows” get established? By being charismatic, you’ll win at this, as well as nearly every other aspect of life.
Here are some general tips on improving your charisma.
Always listen, really
Don’t wait for someone to finish speaking before giving your two cents. Listen. Actively, at that. Nod your head, engage with their conversation, and then offer a response. Showing someone that you’re paying attention to what they have to say is essential in building their trust and opinion of you. It makes you look mature and understanding as well. Also, never cut across someone while they’re speaking; apologize if you do.
Plaster a genuine smile on your face
Many people may not realize it, but a resting facial expression says a lot about the type of person you are. It can either encourage people or scare them away from talking to you. Your friends may know that you’re the nicest person on Earth but to the untrained eye, a resting scowl may deter people from approaching you. Gradually, work in a resting smile onto your face. It won’t be overnight, but eventually it will happen.
Follow through with promises even if it kills you
If you say that you’re going to do something, always do it. You’re only as good as your word in this world and making sure that your reputation remains solid should be the number one thing on your mind. It’s a great way to establish reputation, which in turn works to your overall charisma. People will treat you better, causing you to carry yourself better.
Undersell and over deliver = positive impression
This is the most important one, also piggy-backing off of following through with promises. If you promise to do something, make it less than you know what you can do. Then, exceed expectations. You’ll impress your audience, helping to establish your name. Continuing to do this will give you the charisma and reputation to take on the world.
@Parkway703 gets darker than ever before in “I Can’t Feel My Face”
This is one of the darkest, most beautifully shot visuals that we’ve ever aired. Parkway, hailing from Virginia, is back with a cinematic feast of a video in “I Can’t Feel My Face.” Over some ominous production, Parkway raps with a mysterious kind of angst that’s both inviting and repulsive. He knows how to straddle this invisible line that makes “I Can’t Feel My Face” a worthy video to watch this Tuesday afternoon.
Watch the video below.
Music To Look Forward To Next Week
Thus far, there are only two huge releases to prep for this week. You never know in the age of the surprise album, but here’s what is on track to come out thus far.
Iridescence by Brockhampton – September 21
Brockhampton’s went through some shit lately because of Ameer Vann and the domestic abuse allegations placed against him. But besides the negative energy brought to them because of the debacle, the group’s been on the backburner for quite a while. Iridescence looks to change that, bringing the world something new since last year’s Saturation 3.
Tha Carter 5 by Lil Wayne – September 21
Yes, you read that headline right. Lil Wayne’s fifth installment of Tha Carter series finally comes out this Friday. The legal situation with Birdman has finally been wrapped up. Wayne can focus on the music that he’s been stowing away for years. If Swizz Beatz’s “P.O.M.S. (Pistol On My Side)” is any indicator, it looks like Wayne hasn’t missed a step either.
Music To Look Forward To This Week
This upcoming week for music looks to be pretty barren, save for any suprises. Remember how, in August, and, to some degree, June as well, it felt like everyone was releasing on top of each other? This made for exciting times, seeming as if the listener never knew what to expect. But now, the summer’s winded down. And, with it, the surplus of fresh tunes. Here’s what’s coming out this week, thus far.
East Atlanta Love Letter by 6lack – Sept 14
6lack just unveiled the second wave of promotion for his upcoming album via customized postcards; lucky fans will get them and will be asked to answer a simple question – “what is your definition of love?” This level of detail and creativity shows that East Atlanta Love Letter will be something legendary. 6lack’s been pretty quiet, now we’re going to see just what he’s been working on. The 25-year-old musician’s mesmerizing vocals are some of R & B’s best.
Harverd Dropout by Lil Pump – Sept 14
From bullshitting on SoundCloud, to being Kanye West’s creative anchor for his new single. Lil Pump has come such a long way in a short period of time. It looks like this week will finally yield Harverd Dropout, the highly anticipated follow-up to his self-titled debut. Lets hope that its more of what he gave Kanye and less of the earwormy rap boilerplate found in “Gucci Gang” and “Esketit.”